One of the basic rules of communication states that "The First Impression is the Last Impression". In most cases; it is the moment of truth. But how many times does this actually hold true?
When we try to create an impression, we are trying to project some aspects/attributes of ourselves; which are then left for the other person to perceive. Most often there can be a difference in the projection and perception. Humans are not perfect and not all are at the same skilled level; hence the same projection creates different perceptions in the minds of other people.
How many times it must have happened that we ourselves create a profile of a person in our minds based on his first impression upon us and then later on have to change it because then we get to know the varied aspect of that person.
I intend to ask; when should we actually form a firm opinion about another person. Should be on the first impression or after some later encounters?
Which Impression should be the Lasting ONE???
Saturday, December 27, 2008
The Lasting Impression
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its both ways..at times when our instinctive powers are at its peak we may be right on our judgement on first impression but it is equally true that as we grow by age there wud be ppl who change for good or for bad and hence the first impressions may not hold true..lets give people chance ;) rather then just judging on one or two instances ;)
Actually when we meet the person first time, we create some kind of picture and define his/her characteristics in our mindset.When it went wrong or not matching with our expectation,we just dropped the line in the graph immediately. May be in the cynic world people already know this quote and they always create good impression on the first instance.I think rather judgeing on the first impression we should judge the person on the basis of situations.Not only in one but in different situations.(but you should know the situation very thoroughly not only one sided) For Lasting impression i can say there is no count, you will internally know that i know this person in and out. It varies from person to person.
@chinmai and @dishant:
So it seems good to give chances for others to prove themselves. Not all would be fruitful... but what is life if we don't get a second chance
Very correct hitesh :). Only few are lucky people who get this second chance in their life. I think its a great gift from GOD.
Nice discussion is going on :)
In my opinion, it isn't right to judge someone on a first impression…coz first impressions are not always accurate or valid. Better to judge people on their actions & situations (coz you never know what issues someone has going on in their life) & not by what they look like.
And it's always better to try to know the person before you judge them :)
@princess...see kavita do you believe in senses, gutt feelings and vibes? We may not always have the chance to know a person to judge him and worst case would be like we are in a soup before we come to know about that person.
Sometimes relying on our senses (like chinmai expressed) and feelings also helps to judge people. It is not always necessary to know a person to judge him/her
@hitesh: I think we all should agree on that we are living in a very selfish world. But agree that we should trust on our feelings and guts. But We are not so pure that we can rely on it.
Our feelings and guts are our assumption. When one or two or three times it fall in place than we think that our guts and feelings are always correct. Actually they are our assumption we can use this assumption to prove the theory. But sometime we consider this assumption as our conclusion.
You can use this feeling and vibes as support. But conclusion should always derive judgeing the person in different different situations.
May be it takes time but better to take time rather doing misjudgement which sometime make things more messy.
@dishant : I know of a way you can judge a person.
Ask yourself this question
" If your neck is on the line..would like this 'person' to be holding the lever? "
Answer will tell you whether to trust or not
I am not able to understand what you are saying using this example. I think its not suite to our discussion. May be you can eloborate more.. :)
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